Finding My Way Back to Me - How ADHD, healing, motherhood, and real life led me back to myself — and to KNOW.

For a long time, I thought I had depression and anxiety

And in some ways, it was. But underneath that, there was something deeper going on. I just didn’t know it yet.

Over the years, life kept layering things on. Grief. Childbirth. My son’s autism diagnosis. Perimenopause. The mental load of family life. The constant pressure of trying to keep everything going. I told myself that was why I felt the way I did. That I was just overwhelmed, stressed, emotional, and not coping very well.

But the truth is, I never really felt like myself.

I felt wired, disconnected, hard on myself, anxious, and like I was constantly trying to keep up with life while quietly falling behind in myself.

Discovering ADHD changed the way I saw myself

More recently, I discovered that I have ADHD, and that opened a door to understanding myself in a way I never had before.

It made me start looking at everything differently. Not just how my brain works, but how my past shaped me too.

I’ve realised how much childhood trauma affected the way I connected with people and built relationships. It made me look at where my people-pleasing came from. Why I’ve always been so hard on myself. Why perfectionism has followed me around for years. Why I pick myself apart. Why I learnt to mask so much, stay quiet, and internalise what I was feeling instead of expressing it.

It’s a lot to sit with.

But it’s also been freeing.

The last 18 months have changed me

For the past 18 months, I’ve really been working on myself. Not in a polished or perfect way. Just in a real way.

Trying to understand myself better. Trying to be kinder to myself. Trying to separate who I really am from who I had to become to cope.

And slowly, I feel like I’m beginning to KNOW who I am.

What matters to me.
What I value.
What brings me peace.
What gives me warmth.
What feels good.
What no longer fits.

That has changed so much for me.

I’m not fighting anxiety in the same way anymore. I’m listening to myself more. I’m saying no more. I’m stepping back from things that drain me. I’m giving my time and energy to the things that actually make me feel like me.

I know I’m not the only one

I know I’m not the only woman who feels like this.

I know I’m not the only one who has spent years feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, stuck in survival mode, or unsure of who I am.

So many women are carrying so much. Family life, children, work, relationships, grief, hormones, invisible mental load, old wounds, and the pressure to hold it all together while looking like they’re coping.

That’s a huge part of why I wanted to start sharing more honestly.

Because I don’t want to pretend.
I don’t want to create something that only looks good from the outside.
I want real talk, real women, real families, and real life.

What KNOW. really means to me

And I think that’s what this whole journey has really been about for me.

Not just clothing.
Not just building a brand.

It’s about creating something meaningful from lived experience.

Something honest.
Something supportive.
Something that says: I see you. I get it. You’re not alone.

This is only the beginning

I still have so much I want to build. So much I want KNOW. to become.

But at the heart of it, I hope it always feels like this:

A way of helping women feel seen.
A way of helping women feel supported.
A reminder that even when life feels messy, heavy, or overwhelming, you are not alone.

And maybe, in amongst all of that, a way of finding your way back to yourself too.